When you get married, accommodating the demands of all your bridal party can be difficult - from requests about how they style their hair, to what dresses they pick.
But one bride's sister sparked a serious debate after taking issue with another aspect of her big day.
In a dilemma posted on Reddit's Am I The As*hole? forum, a woman said that her sister - who was Maid Of Honour for her big day - had threatened to pull out of the ceremony unless she was allowed to breastfeed her child when proceedings were in full swing.
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She wrote: "I (21f) am getting married at the end of July 2021. My sister (29f) is my matron of honour and she currently pregnant with her fourth child.
"Her due date is a few weeks before my wedding, and I could not be more excited to meet my new nephew. However, she has been making some comments that are a bit worrying to me."
The bride continued to explain: "She has repeatedly told me that she is going to hold her new baby as she walks down the aisle, regardless of my thoughts (despite the fact that her husband will be at the wedding and able to hold the baby).
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"She plans to hold her baby during the ceremony and even feed him if she needs to. This is not a long Catholic wedding ceremony. Just a regular ol' cutesy outdoor wedding. Probably 20 minutes long.
"I told her she should feel welcome to have her new little baby with her during the day while we are getting ready, but when it comes to walking down the aisle, I would not like her to be holding the baby.
"The baby could cry, poop, need to eat, etc. etc. She has insisted that she will be holding her baby during the wedding - otherwise she will not be in the wedding."
As she signed off her dilemma, the bride-to-be divulged: "In addition to the baby-holding dilemma, she has jokingly told me that she will call me a bad aunt in her wedding speech. Or she will get her other kids to "object" in the middle of my wedding.
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"I think she is trying to be funny, but all of these comments are frustrating and hurting my feelings."
She went on to ask Reddit users if she was being unfair.
Reacting to the post, people had some views, to say the least.
"Given her threats about the speech and objecting to the wedding, I'd disinvite her from everything. She and her kids can stay home," one person wrote.
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While another penned: "Agreed. I would just remove her from the wedding and say, 'I thought about it and I agree, you should be focused on your new baby and as such, I think it would be best that I don't stress you out with having you be my matron of honour. So don't worry about the wedding. You got your hands full.'"
A third wrote: "If her husband is there, he can hold the baby for 20 minutes. It's not even her first kid. By saying that she would have her kids object to your marriage (please let's hope she is actually joking), it sounds like she really doesn't care about your wedding being a special day for you."
They went on to advise: "You should try sitting her down again and tell her how you feel about her jokes and explain why it would mean a lot for her to not carry her baby down the aisle.
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"If she can't meet your reasonable expectations, you might want to consider kicking her out of your wedding party/not letting her make a speech."
A fourth wrote: "If you are otherwise close to your sister, I think you should just be honest with her.
"Be firm, be calm, and stand your ground. If she makes any snide comments, call them out. If she freaks out, don't react, just end the conversation, wait 24 hours and then tell her that she's clearly under a lot of stress so you are going to go ahead and proceed without her."
There were some who were more supportive of the sister, though.
"It's your call to make on your wedding day, but it's not an abnormal request for her to make," someone chimed in. "The last wedding I went to, one of the bridesmaids had her newborn in one of those baby slings that wrap around you that was custom made in a fabric to match her dress and it was honestly real cute."
"I've seen people do this with newborns all the time. My brother held my niece when he walked my sister down the aisle, and my nephew followed my sister when she and her new husband left the alter," another agreed. "Sorry your wedding won't be picture perfect".
A third concurred: "Those early days are so stressful on the parents. Hearing your own baby cry sends those fight-or-flight hormones through the roof.
"So maybe take a deep breath, remember that people will be looking at you, not her, no matter what she's doing for the baby, and give her gracious permission to do this. It will help your relationship in the future.
"And if you ever have your own baby, you might come to understand her wishes more deeply."
We guess the jury is still out on this one...
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