Bride and groom slammed after sending out invites asking guests to pay for their own meals at wedding

A bride and groom have been criticised after they asked guests to pay for their own meals at their wedding.

When you're invited to someone's special day, the general expectation is that the food is provided.

This usually consists of a meal after the ceremony, known as the 'wedding breakfast' followed by food in the evening, too.

But one couple had other ideas after they asked their guests to pay up ahead of their attendance.

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The invite was shared in a wedding shaming group on Facebook, That's It I'm Wedding Shaming, where the anonymous guest was in shock over the arrangement.

“No, no, no, no, no, and no," they wrote.

Some people were pretty horrified at the request, with many calling the couple out for not conforming with wedding etiquette.

“In lieu of traditional gifts, we kindly request that you contribute towards the cost of our reception buffet," the invitation read.

"This will allow us to share a wonderful meal together and create lasting memories with our loved ones.

“To facilitate the planning process, we kindly ask that you include your contribution to the meals when you RSVP.

“This will help us provide accurate numbers to our venue and ensure a seamless experience for everyone.”

The invitation explained that the cost per head was $40 for adults (£31.71) and $20 (£15.86) for children under the age of 12.

The couple also requested that funds were sent ahead of time by transferring into their bank account.

“Kindly include your name and ‘wedding buffet contribution’ in the payment reference,” they explained.

“Your presence at our wedding is the most meaningful gift we could ask for, and we are truly grateful for your love and support as we embark on this new chapter of our lives together.”

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People were pretty divided over the request, with some thinking it was mega rude while others didn't mind paying for their food in lieu of a gift.

One person wrote: "I have absolutely zero problem with this, and I think it’s kind of weird that people expect a great meal and alcohol for free but will also complain if the food and alcohol isn’t good enough or if it’s not an open bar.”

While another said: “Is it bad that I actually don’t have an issue with this? It’s a reasonable amount, less than what most people would spend on a gift, and they were clear that they did not want gifts as well as the contribution.”

However, others were less understanding, with one adding: “If you can’t afford a wedding, don’t have a wedding,” meanwhile others called it 'tacky'.

What do you think?

Topics: Wedding, Sex and Relationships

Lucy Devine

Lucy is a journalist working for Tyla. After graduating with a master's degree in journalism, she has worked in both print and online and is particularly interested in fashion, food, health and women's issues. Northerner, coffee addict, says hun a lot.

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