Mum Causes Online Debate After Telling 12-Year-Old Daughter To Diet
A debate has started on Mumsnet after onemum admitted telling her 12-year-old daughter that she was at risk of being over-weight.
The woman took to the online forum to explain the guilt she was feeling about her honest words to her daughter.
Some parents rushed to support the mum, praising her for being truthful, while others raised concerns that the mum could be causing body hang-ups.
The guilty mum wrote: "Since starting high school in September, daughter (who has only grown two cm in that time) has put on a stone.
"She's still JUST in the healthy BMI range but has basically moved from the lower end of the range to the top.
"I assumed this was puberty as we eat healthily at home and I can see online what food she's buying for school lunches.
"However I cleaned her room recently and found loads of sweet wrappers - a whole bedroom bins-worth."
The mum continued to explain how she had spoken to her daughter about eating healthier, when she asked "am I fat?"
"She asked me outright, 'am I fat?' and I said that she wasn't but if she continued eating that amount of junk and putting on weight at the rate she was then she would be overweight soon."
The mum explained that since the chat with her daughter, she had started running and turning down dessert, which provoked debate among Mumsnet users who disagreed about whether the mum had done the right thing.
She asked: "She went to my mum's house and refused some chocolate buttons and all hell has broken loose.
"According to my mum I've messed up badly, you should never mention weight to an impressionable child and I've set her up for a lifetime of disordered eating...
"Have I messed up?"
One mum responded: "I'm really sorry to say it but yes I think you've made a BIG mistake.
"It's obviously had an affect as she has changed her food choices already but I think you need to chat about it.
"I know you probably feel rubbish about hurting her feelings but it does need sorting. Good luck."
However another mum disagreed: "I think you did the right thing.
"I was overweight from that age and wish that my mum had dealt with it."
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