Relationships are hard work and they require effort on both parts.

It's a well known fact, and now a study carried out by psychologists at the University of Rochester, New York, has cemented that notion by emphasising the role that compassion plays.

Led by professor of psychology, Harry Reis, the research looked at the link between 'compassionate acts and everyday emotional well-being in 175 newlywed couples'.

They defined compassionate acts as 'caregiving that is freely given, focused on understanding and genuine acceptance of the other's needs and wishes, and expressed through openness, warmth, and a willingness to put a partner's goals ahead of one's own'.

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The experiment took part over a two week period, in which the couples were asked to keep a daily diary and note down every single good deed carried out by either individual.

Couples were also asked to write down their emotional state on a daily basis, such as happy or hurt.

The findings were powerful, revealing that .65 and .59 compassionate acts were carried out everyday. And it was husbands who were the most aware of this.

But most importantly, they found that both the person carrying out the compassionate act and the person soaking up all of its goodness benefited, in particular the person who goes out of their way to carry out a good deed.

Also, it doesn't matter whether your partner knows that you have done something nice for them or not. You will still feel the benefits.

It certainly pays to be kind

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