While weddings are meant to just be a celebration of love in front of our closest family and friends, for a lot of people, it can be a minefield of trying not to hurt people's feelings. For one woman posting on mumsnet, her special day has turned into just that - she's posted on the website that she's trying to decide whether or not she can get away with dropping two of her bridesmaids.
As she says in the post, the bride-to-be got engaged in 2016 and her closest friends at the time were all asked to be her bridesmaids.
While they all said yes at the time, the bride's life has changed a great deal in that time - she's moved cities, changed jobs, and has spoken to one of the bridesmaids only once in the past year.
She says that she's drifted away from two of her five bridesmaids and would "choose differently" now, having made a new close friend over the last year who she would have instead - but worrying that it would be "mind-boggingly rude" to cut anyone out.
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The bride-to-be turned to mumsnet for advice as she's concerned about axing two of her bridesmaids and coming across like a bridezilla - naturally a sensitive concern for a lot of brides.
A lot of commenters were pretty helpful - one user suggested messaging everyone to say that she had to make cutbacks on a lot of aspects of the day to save money due to her pregnancy, while another said that they would likely forget if someone had asked them to be their bridesmaid in 2016.
One sympathetic commenter said that they had ended up having a maid of honour that they "felt like they had to" and had ended up regretting it - she said that "the outcome was that she was pretty useless and there was definitely someone that I would have preferred to have."
Other users were less understanding, with one saying "you can say that you are replanning and not having any bridal party, but you can't kick 3 people out of your wedding. That is so rude. You say you aren't wanting to axe them, but you are. These are friends, not jobs to fill. Your intention might not be to be cruel, but your actions are." adding, "at this point your only option is to live with your original choices or have no bridal party. Anything else is just plain mean, regardless of what your intentions are."
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Others said that similar things had happened to them or that they had been axed from their friends' bridal parties, but were still understanding of the OP's dilemma. While it can be tough to be cut from someone's wedding, it's understandable that if someone hasn't spoken to someone in a year, they might not want to fork out to have them by their side in their big day anymore.
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