It's everyone's worst nightmare - discovering that your partner has been leading a whole other life outside of your relationship.
One heartbroken woman has taken to parenting site MumsNet to reveal that her boyfriend had gone on holiday and secretly got married without her even knowing. She only realised that what he had done after discovering wedding photos on social media.
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Writing on the forum, the woman explained that she'd been seeing a guy since April, and it had been going really well.
"He's stayed over at mine when my kids have been away and we had a chat about being exclusive," the mama explained to other users.
She continued: "He'd been telling me for a while that he had a two week holiday booked and a few weeks beforehand he said that he wouldn't be contactable during the holiday.
"With the benefit of hindsight that now seems a bit odd but at the time I didn't really give it much thought.
Anyway since he went I have noticed that he has been online on WhatsApp a lot which is odd as he said he wasn't going to be able to access it at all due to lack of internet etc."
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The MumsNet user explained that after she'd 'done some digging' on social media, she discovered that his holiday was actually him tying the knot with another gal.
She continued: "There is nothing about it on his Facebook or insta but loads of pics on his new wife's account and other family members. I just feel completely shocked and very hurt.
"I discovered it last night and in my initial shock and upset I thought I should send a message to his wife letting her know what he is actually like but I didn't and now in the cold light of day I just think that would be an awful thing to do to her just after her wedding.
"I just feel totally physically sick that I have been involved in this. I have looked at the pics and they look so happy and I am just so gutted that he isn't the man I thought he was and also that I have been caught up in something so bloody awful and that I have fallen for it."
The mum added that she had now blocked his number, but still couldn't get over her fella's betrayal, asking other parents what she should do.
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Advising her not to tell his new wife, one person fumed: "It's horrible. Try to block and move on. Contacting his wife doesn't solve anything for you. I would try to see a therapist, this is a traumatic experience and you should focus on yourself and your healing.
"It happens to the best of us, just keep in mind that you had had an unlucky incident, but a lucky escape."
And somebody else echoed: "Please don't tell his wife! She will of course eventually find out what a low life he is, but if you're the one to tell her, so soon after her wedding a) she probably won't believe you, and b) you'll have the guilt of her distress to deal with on top of everything else!"
"Honestly just step away, he is not worth the angst," pointed out a third.
But others urged her to confront him by telling his new bride, with one person replying: "So sorry this has happened. I think you should tell her, before he does it to somebody else.
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"Why should you be the only one left in the dark feeling hurt? Teach him a lesson that he cannot do this type of thing in life and get away with it! You'll be doing her a favour."
Another added: "Wow I hate the thought that this happens! Totally not your fault though and it's excellent that you found out. I think his wife ought to know is as well. Or he will just get away with this behaviour."
And a final posted: "For his wife's sake, please tell her. If the situation was reversed would you want her to tell you? I would."
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